There is no other feeling compared to the feeling that a dad has towards his little bundle. The overwhelming joy, happiness, anxiety maybe too much for some dads, but most dads, it is okay for them.
Daddies look forward to spending time with their little bundle of joy because they were there every step of the way with mommy. So dads know what the process is all about and are eager to help mommy after delivery.
I believe the greater emphasis should be given to dads spending time with their babies, not only that it fosters wholesome relationships between moms and babies, but it provides an atmosphere of security, peace, love, belonging mental and physical wellness.
Most moms suffer from postpartum depression which is called “baby blues”, which means a mom is experiencing anxiety, mood swings, crying spells, difficulty sleeping, or suicidal thoughts which normally begins within the first two to three days after delivery and can last up to two weeks or more.
Imagine this situation. Mom is at home with her newborn, she has three years old and a six years old to take care of. She has to get up early prepare her two older children for school, the baby is crying, the children are not yet ready, they are going to miss the bus and she did not get a good night sleep. This is rough on mommy alone.
I want to share with you the benefits of having dads spending time with their babies which is critical to fostering wholesome relationships within the family, helping mommy with the baby and other chores, but also good mental health for mom.
Reduce Postpartum Depression
Postpartum depression is widely associated with moms after giving birth to their little ones, and having a good support system such as having dads involved in the daily activities reduces the symptoms associated with postpartum depression. Having dad around to take care of the baby while mommy gets some well-needed rest is so crucial to her well-being.
Did you know that dads get postpartum depression too? Yes, you heard right! they do get paternal postpartum depression. Some of the symptoms of paternal postpartum depression include:
- Working constantly
- Frustration or irritability
- Being easily stressed
- Violent behavior
- Isolation from family and friends
- Loss of interest in work, hobbies and/or sex
When dads delay bonding with their little bundle, they risk the long-term involvement in their child’s life. According to a new study published in Journal of Obstetric, Gynecologic, & Neonatal Nursing (JOGNN), from the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric and Neonatal Nurses (AWHONN), it stated that some dads reported that they didn’t experience fatherhood until the birth of their baby, while moms start experiencing motherhood when they realize that they are pregnant.
Some fathers expect that bonding with their baby would be immediate, but this is not in most cases. Fathers who are a part of their baby’s life from conception, are less likely to experience paternal postpartum depression.
Reading to Your Baby
Babies are accustomed to hearing mom’s voice from they were in the womb. By reading to your baby, the baby will recognize your voice and become attached to you; therefore, when you take up your baby, he/ she will not cry, because your baby is familiar with your voice. You will be forming a bond with your baby by reading as it helps to develop their cognitive skills. It is also a way to immerse yourself into the story and to be an actor to your baby.
Early Morning Strolls
This a great way for dads to bond with their priceless treasure as both you and your baby will get some fresh air in the lungs. If the weather is nice and cool, taking early morning strolls are a great way to spend time with your little bundle. You will get some much-needed exercise and also have a little chat with your bundle.
Putting Baby to Bed
Children on a hold respond well to routine and when they know that it is bedtime time they expect daddy to put them to sleep. When dads form bonds with their babies, no one else can get them to sleep but daddy. Sometimes moms have a difficult task of getting her baby to bedtime if dad is not around. That is the power of daddy bonding. If dad has to go back to work, he will make sure that he is home to put his little bundle of joy to sleep.
Playtime with dad is always a happy, joyous, and adventurous experience. This is the time when dads are at their little one level. When dads spend a lot of time playing with their babies from an early age, it won’t be a difficult task to play with them when they are teenagers or even adults.
Playing with your little ones is a valuable way to teach them good behavior from bad behavior and it also fosters creativity and the development of thinking skills, especially in toddlers.
Telling your child that you love and care for them is a big deal, even if your baby won’t understand the words. But your baby will know that you love and care for them by the way you make them feel.
A Hero- To Mom, Baby and Family
Dads are seen as the “security force” for the family. When dad feels appreciated by mom, baby, and family, it makes them feel happy, and they will do everything to ensure the security of their family.
When babies get older and start attending school, they will brag about their dad being the greatest and being their hero. Dad’s like to hear that. Moms see dads as someone they can depend on; someone who has their back; a shoulder to cry on.
An Engaged Dad
It is, therefore, important to encourage and foster daddy-baby bonding as there are numerous benefits to gain; not only to baby and the entire family but to dad. An engaged dad means getting involved in a variety of things at home to assist mom and the family, but also know when something is wrong within the family, such as if mom is a little overwhelmed for whatever reason or something is wrong with your little bundle of joy.
It warms my heart to see dads take an active part in the nurture and care of their little ones. Even if the parents aren’t married, there is no excuse for a dad not to play an integral role in the development of his child. Father’s Day is just not enough, Father’s Day, in my opinion, should be included in May which represents Mother’s Day, Child’s Month, and Family month.
I hope you enjoy reading this post. I would love to get your comments.